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Is Life Better Without Porn?
Recently, one of the guys in the X3group I lead said something very interesting during his check-in. He was describing one of the challenges he faced in pursuing sexual purity: Not knowing what life...
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Out Of Porn And Into The Real You
I still remember my first encounter with porn. I was somewhere between the age of 9 and 11, and since it was the 1970s, porn was not all too easily accessed. My introduction came through a magazine a...
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Instant Porn, Instant Recovery?
I like things that are quick. Microwaves. Fast food. Immediate movie streaming online. Digital photos I can take on my phone and upload in seconds.I also like making my life easier sometimes by paying...
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No Secrets, Just Stories
Shame. It's one great obstacle that can arise when trying to overcome any type of struggle. Most people who have an addiction of one type or another usually know their habits are destructive but have...
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Trying to Stay Pure? You Might Be Committing Adultery
Here’s a story for you: the monk Benedict would occasionally strip himself naked and throw his body into thorns and thistles in an attempt to dismiss himself of sexual passion.Here’s another story:...
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Porn Crushes Dreams: My Porn Story
I have an uncommon--though unfortunately not unique--story when it comes to getting free from porn. It’s a story that’s hard to hear, but like all stories, it begs to be told and demands that lessons...
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I Was a Porn Addict and a Pastor’s Kid: My Porn Story
It was on the playground, during recess, when the Playboy bunny made a "visit" to my elementary school. A classmate of mine wanted to show me a picture of a naked lady. I was six years old. Little did...
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The Hot Light Is Always On
I don’t meet a lot of people who tell me, “Today, I’m going to wake up and look at porn.” Most people are out and about, planning on a normal day until they see something that triggers it. Whether you...
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The Power of We: A (Shared) Porn Story
I was sitting across from an absolutely broken man, his heart in his hands, his head hanging in shame as he wept aloud. He told me his story with a cracked voice: how his wife was contemplating leaving...
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You Don’t Have to Cheat to Be Unfaithful
There are few areas where fidelity is more important than in the intimate confines of a family. As both a pastor and a cop, I’ve seen firsthand the variety and enormity of the consequences that come...
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Tie Me Up!
I love reading Greek mythology. Yeah, I know. One of my favorite tales is the story of Odysseus and his trek home after the Trojan War. During this lengthy boat ride home, he and his shipmates’ sale...
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SCARF This: 5 Steps To Building Your Own Family
I meet with about 20 guys each week who are working on their sexual struggles. Some meetings are face-to-face, some are online, and some are over the phone, but no matter the method, most of these guys...
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2 Ways To Think About Family
When I envision my former porn addiction, the most accurate picture I get in my mind is that of a wrecking ball. That wrecking ball of addiction nearly demolished my family. At the age of 26, I had...
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Porn: Your Key To Unemployment
[Editor’s note: today’s post is an excerpt from Eyes of Integrity: The Porn Pandemic and How It Affects You by Craig Gross with Jason Harper]The office was buzzing on a typical Friday afternoon, where...
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Porn: Yoke or Joke?
The days of porn being secluded to back rooms, top shelves, and brown bags are finished. Porn is now more pervasive than alcohol or tobacco—as neither of those things are available 24/7 on your...
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3 Out of 4 Men Use Porn. Are You One of Them?
Our efforts to become people of sexual purity can, at times, feel like a losing battle – especially as we see the number of people dealing with porn addiction continue to rise. "Look at how much fun...
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What Do A Prostitute and a Prophet Have to Do With Porn? More Than You Think
Nearly every man trying to rid himself of pornography has tried more times than he can count to start fresh, vowing never to go back, only to find himself back in the throes of his struggle and...
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5 Steps That Helped Me Overcome Pornography
Pornography isn’t that big of a deal….that’s what I used to think. How I Got Addicted to PornWhen I was 14 years old, my dad and I bought one of the first satellite dishes. It gave me access to...
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Get the Book Pure Eyes For Free - TODAY ONLY
Hey guys, I’m pretty excited to tell you that the publishers of the book Pure Eyes are running a promotion through Amazon and Barnes and Noble where you can download the e-book version of Pure Eyes...
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3 Lies Porn Taught Me About Sex
Sadly, most people—both men and women—don’t know what sex is today. It was a fall day in third grade. I jumped off the bus and abided by my normal routine of climbing my next-door...
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The Real Reason Why You Can’t Change (Part 1)
Throughout the years I’ve heard many stories from people who have talked about wanting to change. They’ve made commitments to stop using pornography, having anonymous sex, or masturbating. But for...
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The Real Reason Why You Can’t Change (Part 2)
In part 1, we looked at a deep-seeded reason many people have difficulty changing their bad habits for good. In this part, we’ll now look at some ways you can definitely find relief and real...
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What to Do When Boundaries Become Meaningless
When I began my recovery journey, I set a number of boundaries in my life. I went to bed when my wife went to bed; I wouldn’t stay in our apartment alone; I wouldn’t go online without a specific...
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Nine Reasons Men Should Stay Away From Porn
Pornography has little to do with sex and everything to do with fantasy. And if not confronted, this addiction to fantasy can become a consuming fire threatening all quality of life.So before you go...
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5 Ways to Build Integrity
One thing I find in short supply at times is, unfortunately, integrity. I think that’s part of the reason we value it so much when we find someone who actually displays it. It’s a breath of fresh...
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